Pre-VSG, I used to enjoy a hearty lunch with friends and colleagues. It included my own food, plus bits and pieces from others’ plates. After my surgery, I’ve been having my lunch alone, in my office. From a chatty time of the day, lunch has turned into a meal had in utmost silence. Post lunch, I go for a walk in the office to avoid nausea and bloating, which so many weight-loss surgery patients often suffer from, especially after those tiny meals that feel like buffet spreads!
Evening out with friends that once consisted of deciding the best place to go and eat has now turned into a task to find the place that serves healthy soups. I haven’t gone out with friends who I normally frequented eating places with. I am reluctant and they haven’t made too much of an effort – another change for Bariatric patients is the change of behaviour in a few friends, but that’s the subject of another blog.
Everything changes – food is a unifier, and for those who have undergone vertical sleeve gastrectomy, it becomes a divider. Unless you have a friend who has undergone surgery to lose weight too. And I’m lucky I have such a friend, even though we don’t meet too often. But it’s a relief enough, to be able to share those experiences and thoughts and helplessness and novelty of this surgery and the life thereafter.
But in the end, it’s a lonely journey. YOU make healthy choices, YOU choose whether you workout or not, YOU choose better food, and YOU yourself are responsible for the success of failure of this second chance that you’ve been given with VSG.